Dramatic People

I don't get along with dramatic people. I just figured it out. It's not that I don't like them or that they don't like me. And it doesn't mean I can't handle them as friends. But for some reason I just can't click with them the way I do with other people.

I can go through a list of all the people I don't "click" with and can find some level of dramaticism in most of them. Here are the different classes of these people, in no particular order or rank:
-Annoying
-Can talk to but prefer not to hang out with
-Can hang out with but prefer not to talk to
-Can talk and hang out, but with extra effort on my part
-Don't get/serious reaction to sarcasm
-Can't give or receive criticism without being extremely defensive or offensive
-Perfectly nice person, I just don't really have a desire to get closer

Now, I should say here, although this is such a cliche, that I am not without fault. And if someone who I consider dramatic could tell me some quality about myself which causes them not to click with me, I would be thrilled to find out!
Some philosopher said something, and since I don't remember the exact words (and since the exact words were probably greek or latin anyway), here is my version:
When someone criticizes you or points out your fault, respond by saying, "If you knew of my other faults, you wouldn't only point out this one!"

This seems to be similar to "heaping burning coals" on someone's head. My view: be comfortable with your own faults, but if you find something you think you should change, change it, and try not to always use defensive excuses.

I annoy myself sometimes, and I think everyone is annoyed with me sometimes (hopefully not all at once, I'm just saying we all have personality traits that clash with others'). I'm assuming everyone could find something annoying about themselves or about most other people. This isn't a bad thing, except I guess, if you're always gossiping and can't get past those characteristics. I mean, the people you love, everyone, including your same- and opposite- sex friends/relatives, have probably annoyed you at some [or several] time[s], but you love them--it's just part of them. That doesn't define them.

I used to worry more about being annoying, because who wants to be annoying? I guess now I'm comfortable with myself because let's face it, most of my characteristics are pretty much defined for life. I think what put my worrying to death is finding my wife. From the very beginning, I liked her a lot, and vice versa. And once you find out someone likes you like that, you know you can't be too bad.

As far as being annoying to friends, well, I guess the same is true. If you have any friends at all, you can't be too bad. And if they really want to pick on something annoying about me, well I can probably return the favor. But since we all know we're not perfect, we can all agree to call it even. Like Chandler and Monica.

Here is the food for my thought. See next post...