Dominant People

At the end of the last post, I considered continuing, but I decided to break this off into a new one. My question was going to be about the people that I can completely deal with, as a matter of fact I can usually honestly say I love them, in a friend-loving way, BUT they seem to think that there is or was a rift between us. That's kind of frustrating because I think to myself, "well you and i have traits that cause us to clash a bit, but I can get past that." But when they assume this rift, it's as if they're saying the same thing, except they CAN'T get past it, which could mean there's something wrong with ME! But what is it?

Let's delve. There are personality tests, and I'll use 2 different ones just in case anyone is familiar with either.
REVIEW:
There are 4 basic personality traits, and people have some degree of all 4. BUT, what decides their personality are the dominant traits. So here are the 4 (I'm not going really deep into this, so you can assume/imagine the rest)
Extroverted:
DOMINANT, lion, my way
INFLUENCE, otter, fun way
Introverted:
STABILITY, golden retreiver, easy way
COMPLIANCE, beaver, right way

I'm going to refer to these as D, I, S, and C, since those are the shortest. I took this test in high school and was and I and an S (with the first one listed, I, being the most dominant trait). Jason, I believe, and I would guess, is a D and a C. Chris, I would guess, is a pretty close race between S and I, with some C in there right before D at the bottom.

The tension between myself and those described in the 2nd sentence of this post is due, I think, to a simple personality difference. Let me use specific examples, keeping in mind that I like both of these people tremendously. Both of these people have specifically pointed out or shown by example or I heard through the grapevine that "we haven't always gotten along."

1.) A.J. has very extroverted characteristics. I would guess D and I are his top 2. I am also extroverted, but my I is very high and my D is pretty low. I think, "We can get along, we just could eventually get on each other's nerves if together for too long." He probably thinks close to the same thing, but I have a feeling his dominant D makes him deep down think, "there's not enough room in this town for the both of us."

2.) Laura Hal. is also a D. I guess I didn't need two separate sections, huh?

So, in summary, two extroverted people, particularly if at least one is a D, have a much higher tendency of clashing since they're often strong-willed, thick-headed, and crazy. That's why many couples naturally turn out to be a mix of extro- and introverts. For example, Jason (straight out of the lion's den) and Jessica (such a S-weetie), Adam (can act extro- but is technically intro-, an S to be exact) and Laura ( extro-), Shawn and Amy.

Interesting and personal side-note: introverts can be together, but one of them has to be able to take the extroverted position sometimes. For this reason, Shawn and Amy works better than Jon and Amy. At least 16-year-old Jon, BUT THERE AIN'T NO SECOND CHANCES IN THIS GAME, BABY!!!

For some reason, Jason and I don't clash. Not that we haven't ever, but it was never long-lasting. Maybe it's because subconsciously, we know we both have extroverted/dominant characteristics, so we choose to never compete for the same position. For example, we don't cowrite a blog, because that's not natural for us. We've had leadership questions before, but there were clear delineations between positions and it ended up working fine. Once I had to submit to Jason regarding something at camp since he was head counselor, I can't remember the issue. In a different leadership position that we were forced to somewhat share, Jason decided to concede leadership to me to avoid confrontation.

J and AJ may have band related clashes, naturally and predictably. Jon could have band issues with Dan and the rest of the band, but as an introvert, Jon would bring the issue to someone else instead of actually speaking with Dan.

I always used to be able to show my true "I" to family and even some people in grade/junior high school, unless they were too cool. When I hung around with certain people, though, my "I" was completely snuffed. All these people were very strong D or I, while I was just a fresh social "I." There was Josh M, AJ, Joe V, Drew S, Dan Z, etc. You could not even get a word out without one of these guys making a joke over you. I have never stopped being intimidated by Josh M, probably because I haven't seen him for a few years. When you're around him, he's just so extraordinarilly confident and ADHD (and admittedly, funny), that I could never shake the feeling that nothing I said was funny enough, or at least he was ready to jump in and take over again.

I think this kind of psychology is interesting. Was I destined to turn out the way I did? What if I just never hung out with those kids again? Would my personality finally find its way out in a different circle of friends? Would it be the same?

Actually, my personality didn't find its way out in that circle of friends. It was with other friends, my best friend was always someone less dominant than me. Interesting. Then, after I was a little more confident, I could mingle in the other circle, but without ever really feeling a confident equal until a couple years ago.

Please share your experience and thoughts.